The Pursuit Of Being Alive Pt III
In the first post of this series, we looked at how easy it is to lose your vision. In the second part we looked at how it is never too late to regain purpose and that goals may change through different seasons of life. In this one, we look at our role in helping others regain their vision, an especially relevant topic today and is really the reason I am writing this series this week.
New Year’s Day is the only “special day” in which there is a change in suicide rates. Contrary to common belief, Christmas does not see a spike in suicide. During Christmas people are more likely to spend time with family, there is more connection and more hope. In the New Year we set resolutions, think about new starts, and wake up on January 1st to see that once again nothing has changed. The increase in hope followed by the coming down to Earth, and the reality that nothing changes on New Year’s Day brings an emptiness.
So what can we do? Well… Be there. If you know someone who has been on their own and may be down, call them to let them know you care. If they are depressed, encourage them to get help. Find out what their goals are for the year. What do they want to achieve? Help them rediscover their vision and if you are struggling yourself, it will help you see the purpose and value in your life to know you are helping other.
None of us can do this alone – we all need people to help and support us, and we all have something to offer to others.
Here are the three takeaways for today:
1 – This is a tough time of year for many people. If you are struggling today – get help. Talk to someone. The Samaritans worldwide can be contacted here.
2 – No matter what you are struggling with, you have value and purpose. Someone needs you, and you have something to offer.
3 – Think about one goal you want to achieve this year. Think about the steps to achieve it. What’s the first one? Take it. Then take the second, the third and so on. Begin a journey.
In our individualistic world we lose sight of the fact that we are all interconnected and need each other. We don’t lose anything by trying to help someone else, and yet we can gain so much. This is a brutal time of the year for people with depression, so take a step and offer your hand to someone who needs it. You may just save a life.
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