In this series we’ve looked at how we lose sight of our goals, and how it can leave us feeling lost and without direction. Today we will look at a few quick ideas on how to overcome the challenges we face, renew (or create) a blueprint, and begin building the life we want to see.
The first thing we need to do is look at the reasons we are failing. As basic as it sounds, often it is because we don’t know what we are trying to achieve. We either don’t set the goals, or we set them and move so far away that they aren’t real anymore. When I was a kid I wanted to be a rock star. I’m pretty far removed from that now, but it doesn’t mean I can’t have goals. I can create a new blueprint and create new dreams. Either that or wear a T-shirt three sizes too small and play Bon Jovi covers in a bar, but that’s not really my thing and I don’t have the hair for it.
However, I speak to many people who have let go of their goal far too soon. Mostly it is because they have been distracted by other things. I worked in retail for a long time and in one position there was a bright young lady selected to be put through the leadership program I had developed. I knew she would be amazing, and she has a really bright future. In our initial meeting I made her promise that if I put her through the program, she wouldn’t allow the dreams she has to be sucked dry. Our daily jobs can take so much, and often offer so little. After a while dreams die, and twenty years later we realise we’ve achieved nothing of value.
After this, even with a dream in tact, we can still be lost. What next? There is a little mind-hack here from Neurolinguistic Programming that can help with this. It’s kind of like creating a memory from the future.
Wayne Rooney, ex-England, and Premier League soccer player says this:
“Part of my preparation is I go and ask the kit man what colour we’re wearing – if it’s red top, white shorts, white socks or black socks. Then I lie in bed the night before the game and visualise myself scoring goals or doing well. You’re trying to put yourself in that moment and trying to prepare yourself, to have a ‘memory’ before the game. I don’t know if you’d call it visualising or dreaming, but I’ve always done it, my whole life.”
We need to change our mindset. What am I doing when I am working on my dream? How will my decisions and behaviours be different when I achieve it? What are the steps I took to get to this point? What path did I follow? Essentially, you are creating your path as if it is already traveled, and then you are walking it. It takes the focus away from the things that tie you down today, and helps you make different choices and decisions to make a better tomorrow.
Finally, it is important to find someone to help and encourage you. We all need support, guidance, and someone to remind us what path we’re on and encourage us when we meet challenges. Don’t be afraid to share your goals, dream big, be bold, and help others along their path.
Here are today’s three takeaways:
1 – Determine whether your blueprint need redesigning, renewing, rediscovering, or a completely new blueprint is needed.
2 – Stay focused on your path. The scenery may change, and the terrain will sometimes be harder than at other times, but keep to the path. Even if you walk just a short way each day, you are still moving forward.
3 – Once again, who are you building with? You need support, and so do other people. If you don’t know anyone who will support you, that’s a pretty good indication of why you may be struggling. Find new friends, and of course, you can share your goals with us.
Working towards your dreams isn’t easy. It will be a challenge, but it isn’t insurmountable. With the right plan, tools, and team you can start bringing your blueprint to life.
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