Casting Crowns have a song called “Slow Fade”. It’s a song about losing your way, well, not so much losing it, but taking small steps off the path until you find yourself at an unrecognizable place. A place you didn’t want to find yourself. You’ve taken so many errant steps, a few bad turns, and now it’s hard to find a way back from the unrecognizable, foggy world you are in.
It seems that in our world today there are so many causes and things to focus on that a fade is inevitable. How can we campaign for a cleaner environment, equal rights for a hundred different groups, better education, a free and open internet, and support our kids in sports or the arts, date our spouses once a week, and keep the “laser like focus” on the 24 KPIs that are important to our boss this week?
Some days it is an achievement just to make it through the day without kicking someone in the shin. Now, some people I know would tell us to create a schedule and stick to it. Don’t be tricked into leaving the path, and don’t allow the fade. However, these are often the same people who struggle to breathe when faced with an unexpected challenge. Not only that, but one thing I always coach people to do is to only plan for what they know they will do.
For example, if someone says they are going to start running at 5am every morning, and by the end of the month will be up to 5 miles, and I know the person hasn’t run in the last 15 years, I may discourage that path of action. It’s not real. No matter how much they think they want it, when it’s time for the running shoe to hit the road, the palm will hit the snooze button. Maybe not immediately, but after 3 or 4 days the slow fade will begin. It’s an ideal goal, not a workable one. At least not right away.
Here are the three takeaways for today:
1 – You didn’t get to where you are today by accident. Wherever you are, it was a series of events and decisions that led you here.
2 – The good news is that you can make different decisions today that will lead to somewhere else in another year, 5 years, 10 years…
3 – Only set goals you know you will meet!
Often we set goals we cannot meet. We may be completely committed to them in theory, and in the ideal world we will achieve them. This isn’t an ideal world and we have both internal and external challenges to be faced and overcome. This week we will look at how to set the right goals, fight the fade, and recover vibrancy.
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