When Mourinho arrived at Chelsea on the back of amazing success as a coach having won the Champions League with Porto, he announced “Please don’t call me arrogant, but I’m European champion and I think I’m a special one.” He went on to show that maybe there was something to his claim by winning the previously Manchester United dominated Premier League two years running. Four years later things had gone sour and Mourinho left.
Mourinho returned for the 2013-14 season, winning the Premier League again in 2014-15. What has this to do with a Pep rally? Here’s where the story turns. On the first day of the season, the Special One showed huge disrespect to the team physio. The physio is the person who works closely with players, helping them in every way to be prepared for games. As reigning Champions, Chelsea started the new season winning only 4 games, losing 9 and drawing 3 before Mourinho left through “mutual consent”. Mourinho, the man who said “I won…” lost his players, and Chelsea only lost 3 more games that season.
Compare this treatment of a backroom staff member with Guardiola’s speech to the staff and Manchester City to celebrate their winning the Premier League.
“You create something unique in terms of the locker room, spirit and friendship. It is impossible to achieve what we achieved if you are not good human beings, if you are not good people, if you don’t accept each other.
“In the end, what we have done is to be better than 19 other teams, nothing else. But what you have done — all the people here, you deserve all my respect.
“Always it will remain in my heart until the last day of my life, I am pretty sure of that. What I felt this season is something amazing.” – Pep Guardiola
Basically, the message Guardiola gives is “What we have done… …is because of what you did.”
Pep says “There is no ‘I’ in team.”
Mourinho says “But there is a ‘me.'”
Here are the three takeaways for today:
1 – You can only say “I” if you are the only person taking part and had no help. Anything else and the reality is “I achieved because someone helped and supported me.” Or, as Pep says “What we have done…”
2 – If you coach someone, the most you can claim is “I helped that person achieve their goal.” Or, as Pep says “What we have done…”
3 – When you achieve a major goal, giving the credit to others for their part doesn’t take anything away from you. If anything, not only does it highlight the achievement, but it increases your humanity.
You can’t achieve your goals alone. Those around you can’t achieve theirs alone either. We lose nothing by helping others achieve, and we gain nothing by claiming the glory for ourselves.
“All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances.” –
William ShakespeareHarry Kane
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