You Can Check Out Anytime…
You flipped the coin, the decision is made, and you’ve made a commitment. It feels right. Your gut says this is your turning point, your majestic reason for being is about the be unveiled to the universe. You are about to change the world, you just know it. Nothing can hold you back. Nothing. And nothing does.
And yet, somehow, you just aren’t achieving your goals. You’re still moving forward. You’ve put one step in front of another, but nothing has changed. Nothing. No growth, no change in status, nothing has even stood in your way. It’s like you’ve been in a vacuum. How does this happen? I have no idea, and fortunately, that’s not what this article is about. This article is about how to work through it, and manage it when it happens.
The problem is that the gnawing sensation, that knowledge that your mission is right and the results could be world shattering, it just won’t leave you alone. You can close down the project, you can pause it, but you can’t leave. As my college Professor said, “It’s like Hotel California…” Checking out is one thing, but leaving, that’s a whole different matter. And whether or not you can leave the mission, it won’t leave you. It sits in your soul, it bubbles, simmers, and festers. It may go quiet for a while, but then it comes back. I know the feeling well, and I am sure you do as well.
So my encouragement to you today is check back in. You can’t leave, and it won’t leave you, so what’s to lose? Worst case scenario is that you learn some new ideas, or learn a little more about yourself. You get to keep that little voice in your head content, and you feel like you are working towards something. Focus on the journey, and let the destination work itself out. I know, it sounds easier than it actually is, but it’s a whole lot better than having your own head trolling you because you’re not following your life mission.
Here are the three takeaways for today:
1 – What’s to lose? OK, it’s frustrating. The results maybe aren’t what you hoped for. But change your perspective and keep taking steps – the only guaranteed result is that if you do nothing, you’ll achieve nothing, so take a step.
2 – What’s the one thing you can’t shake? What is the one thing deep in your soul you know is your mission? I’m not talking about regrets, but the thing that stops your soul from resting until you are moving towards your goal.
3 – It isn’t easy, but try to focus on one step at a time. Think of what comes next, take that step, then take another.
Maslow said we are all seeking actualization, and this can only come about through being truly authentic and real with ourselves. Your life mission is to be the most “you” that you can be, whatever that may look like. For the religious or faith-minded person, this is a relationship with God. For the humanist, it is to serve humanity. Whatever your mission is, take a step towards it and enjoy the peace of mind. You can’t leave, so check back in and enjoy the room service.