In a world where people are increasingly more resistant to the idea that someone can disagree without being the enemy it isn’t an easy concept to take in, but we can actually do this if we want to. We can change the world, one person at a time simply by listening, allowing a voice, and growing. Try it, I guarantee your stress will decrease.
It’s not easy to admit we are wrong. It sucks. But that’s OK. Any time we have to change our position, learn new ideas, or admit we may have flaws in our worldview it is difficult, but that doesn’t mean we should simply double down. Learn, grow, and allow yourself to be challenged, it’s a lot less stressful to be open to a challenge and learn than it is to perform the mental gymnastics of defending an indefensible position.
We started this week’s series with a Twitter quote, and we will also end the week with one.
Daily Intention: I believe that today I will progress towards all that I am wanting.
This quote is meant to be inspirational, but what does it actually offer by way of substance? Nothing.
What it is missing is a second half which would look like this:
Daily Intention: I believe that today I will progress towards all that I am wanting, because I am going to [insert your activity here], and I recognise that what I want to achieve may change.
You may feel that you don’t have the time, money, influence, or some other thing to make a difference in your life but this isn’t true. The reality is that every moment of every day we make decisions that impact our future, and often we let those moments drift away and they become our past. Take one of those moments, be bold, decide something different and take a first step into a new future.
I once had a boss who would use the phrase “Hope is not a plan” (this is the same person who would also say “Perception is reality” so there’s your point of reference). My boss was wrong, hope is a plan (and perception is not reality). OK, it’s not the whole plan, but any plan…
In the last post we looked at the idea of how positive thinking can be a negative. It seems counter-intuitive to think of positive thinking being something that could hinder our success, but in this article we’ll look at the trap people can get into if they believe positive thinking alone will change their world,…
The sun shines and the rain falls on the righteous and the evil alike. Life happens to us all, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Positive psychology isn’t the belief that positive thinking brings positive results. Positive psychology is the belief that there is a point and purpose to our actions, we can grow in skill, and we can make our world a better place. Positive psychology is a fuel for action, not spaceology.
A coach should be judged on their long-term performance, not just results. Manchester United recently won the U18 title, but their U23 team was relegated. There are many U23 players on loan at other teams or even in the Manchester United first team. When the U18s are the best, and the U23s are developed and playing at higher levels, this is what success in coaching looks like.
Focus on the things you want to see. If you tell your penalty taker to “not miss” what are they thinking of? Keep your sight on the target you want to hit, and act accordingly. Focus on what you want to see, not what you want to stop.
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What are your goals? Is your focus simply to win games? Are you looking for immediate success or long-term success? What will players say in the years to come? We won some trophies? Is that the goal, or would you rather they remember you for the lessons you taught them about winning, losing, hard work, dedication, team work, and the groundwork that goes into winning?