I remember a phrase my grandparents used to use when I messed something up "More haste, less speed." Basically, the more you rush to get something done, the more likely you are to mess it up.
We don't always have to have answers or be able to see the end result to feel confident. How many opportunities do people miss out on because they are waiting for a clarity that never arrives?
Does development in a team sport always have to be about the game, or can we also help our kids develop by encouraging them to help develop others? I think we can do more than teach sport and I think the burden on coaches is to win through developing character, integrity, teamwork, effort, and attitude - not focusing on how to win games.
Set 15 minutes of your day aside to work on your goal. If you only spend 15 minutes of your day today working on your goal, you'll be 15 minutes closer to achieving it than you were this morning.
Depression, anxiety, or any other mental illnesses do not have to be caused by something. A certain situation may exacerbate the situation and environment may be a factor, but it did not cause it. People are mentally ill because they have a mental illness.
Take one small step to create a better you, and then tomorrow take another small step, and then another. Think of it as entering The Biggest Loser, except your mind is being worked out and made healthier.
The moment we stop thinking about what we can do better, how we can improve, and we give control over to external factors is the moment we are destined to lose.
A coach has the ability to make a player feel great about what they have done, whether the team won or lost. Coaches have the ability to give players memories that will stay with them a lifetime, reinforcing hard work and effort, and reducing pain from things a player cannot control. The key is really to decide what the coach wants to focus on, because they have the ability to shape the identity of a kid at crucial stages of development.
If we continue to praise mastered tasks we'll see stagnation. If we encourage the status quo, we are by default discouraging development. We don't criticise our teens for being potty trained, but we don't praise their toilet-skills either. Praising our teens for their accomplishments is great, but if we want to see further accomplishment we encourage them to keep building on their previously learned skills.
The reality is that the nature vs nurture debate is null. It is impossible to take one side over another and answer all of the arguments against, no matter which side you take. Why? Because in every facet of life there are Messi’s and Ronaldo’s. There are people who are just naturally good, and people who are driven to be the best.