In sport, a “us vs them” mentality is an amazing way to fire up your team and create confidence that everyone is fighting for the same cause. It’s a basic social identity concept, it works well in sport. In society, too much of it is, well, how we end up with the division we are seeing now.
The world is a very divided, and divisive place. Don’t be distracted, keep your focus on your goals and seek to achieve great things. If people are able to hate Mother Teresa, the rest of us are guaranteed to pick up a nemesis along the way, don’t let them steal your vision.
We have choices when we develop people, whether it is kids, soccer players, team members, employees, or anyone. We can give them the goals and the tools and guide their process or we can tell them how to complete the job. One of these is development and growth, the other is obedience to a system.
If we stick to formulas and what has been done before we will only see the results we have seen before. If we allow room for creativity, accept mistakes, and learn from the moments that didn’t go well we will create an environment of growth, and that is how success becomes part of the DNA.
Choose your goals, and ask yourself how much will you sacrifice before you are prepared to accept defeat, and how much will your habits hinder you? Are you determined to create new paths for success? This will tell you how much you really want it, and whether your are ready to go all out for success.
This week we’ll look at the traits of the successful empire builders, and the traits of the less successful. It may sound obvious, but the biggest key to success – whether you are coaching a High School team or one of the biggest clubs in the world, know your people.
When bad things happen to us, as Frankl says, we have options on how we behave. However, when we are under stress we may not be thinking as clear as we might. There is value in preparing (or conditioning) a measured response so when the time comes you are able to manage your behaviours and not dig ourselves a bigger hole.
If we accept that we have some influence over our environment and train ourselves to respond in a way where there is a positive outcome, we won’t need to make a decision in the miniscule gap between stimulus and response, our response will already be practiced and made permanent, if not perfect.