In this series we see how hope requires both self-reliance, and also a belief that the world will be a safe place. As we look at the need for trust and hope, we can see that when a rat did not feel it had the self-sufficiency to survive it gave up quickly. When a rat … Continue reading Hope Floats Pt III
In our last article we looked at self-reliance, and how we can lose sight of reality when we are under pressure and don't believe we have the tools to continue. In this second installment, we will look at how self-belief but also a belief in the world is important for our well-being, and even our … Continue reading Hope Floats Pt II
We allow other people's goals to become our goals. In many cases this isn't a bad thing, we go further when we work together, but we need to find a way to make both happen, and make sure the goals have value.
Our society is set up to make us feel that whatever we are doing, it is never enough. It seems that sometimes we think the only way we can find success is through extreme, ongoing, and daily stress. But when we think of the toil we are taking on our bodies and souls, are we really on a path to success?
Humans are not failures. We get things wrong. We make mistakes. We make bad choices. We experience failure. We are not failures. Ever. No matter what. We are people.
Success, like failure, is nothing more than an experience, and further more, it is a perception of an experience. Just one experience in the whole jigsaw of life. Don't let an experience define you.
The next time you want to Netflix-binge but you know you'll feel guilty afterwards, do a deal with yourself. Reward yourself with as much Netflix as you want once you have completed all the goals you want to achieve. It may not be free Netflix, but it's something better - guilt-free Netflix. If that doesn't get the dopamine flowing nothing will.
Consequence's through rewards or punishment are how we raise children, encourage team members, coach athletes, discourage criminal behavior, and any number of other behaviors we want to see modified in some way. What if we adjusted our sights a little and in our quest for self-improvement change our patterns by changing the things that influence us?
The moral of the story is that there are infinite possibilities, but instead of exploring we allow our fear to tie us to one path, mostly a well-trodden calf-path. Fear not, and go boldly into the unknown!
We can walk confidently through a world of danger, but when it comes to our personal fear we will allow our thoughts and energy to be focused on one thing that consumes us.