Think like a goalkeeper. When things go wrong it has been a series of events. Think about how the failure could have been prevented, and don’t take it personal. It’s an event, not your identity.
Our society is set up to make us feel that whatever we are doing, it is never enough. It seems that sometimes we think the only way we can find success is through extreme, ongoing, and daily stress. But when we think of the toil we are taking on our bodies and souls, are we really on a path to success?
Fear can often cause more harm than good. It makes us do weird things. We don’t always think straight.
Hope is not something we can create on our own. We rely on people all the time to help us, guide us, support and encourage us to be more than we can be. We need coaches and supporters. Willpower alone will only go so far.
Given the option, the person who has faith will pick the better thing later rather than settle for something lesser. Is this how come kids who can wait for the second marshmallow are less likely to experience divorce? They waited for the something better instead of settling? Is willpower really obedience, or is it something else?
We often think about willpower as being the strength to resist something – the piece of cake, the third cookie, another handful of Doritos. What if willpower is better viewed as a motivator towards something else, or doesn’t even exist?
The only thing you can control is your own performance, and if performances continue to improve, the results will naturally follow. If they don’t, it is because there is something wrong in the preparation.
Building a strong mental toughness, and being bold enough to accept that defeats will litter the path to success is no easy thing. It takes boldness and courage to admit that on the day we just didn’t perform at our best and we can do better.
When we think of a “winning mindset” we tend to overlook the preparation, practice, and performance required to achieve goals. Often we win or lose long before we face an opponent.