Learned helplessness happens when we don’t believe we have the ability to change our world & that external forces are against us. If that’s true, we wouldn’t bother to learn or practice anything. We can change our destination, but sometimes we have to turn the corner to meet the success that awaits those who persist.
We need to help our youth athletes develop and use the skill they have, but it means nothing unless we help them know how to use the skill. If we don’t help them develop that side of their game they will forever be building on less than ideal foundations. This is true in sport and life.
If we want to see development, praising a kid for being fast or for looking flashy but losing the ball 9 times out of 10 isn’t going to help. We need to reward the new behaviours, the growth, and the understanding of teamwork.
It’s OK to be sad. It’s part of our experience, but we can’t lose something we never had, and we don’t know sadness unless we’ve felt happiness. Embrace your happycholy and drift away for a moment.
As you read this you may been think about some of the arcs in your life and maybe have an involuntary smile, a small sigh of sadness. It’s good – it means your still alive and still feeling. It means you’re happycholy.
There is a fine line in superstition. It has to be believed for it to work, but it can’t be given the full power of determining victory or defeat or there is no point practicing. For Skinner’s pigeon the superstition worked, but only when it worked a little harder, went a little further, and did just a little more that it did last time.
Can Ranieri Repeat Leicester Success at Fulham? No Way.
Ultimately the fear virus is beaten by maintaining a focus on the steps you need to take to meet your goals, and keeping your mind on positive outcomes. As Peter Gabriel says in the song Darkness:
“When I allow it to be, it has no control over me, I own my fear, so it doesn’t own me.”
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Fear will destroy everything you ever worked for. It will stop you not just achieving your goals, but can stop you even trying.
Success is relative. What one person sees as success another may see as failure. However, we all view success as comparative to something else. The important thing is to focus on your goals, stick with those where you can be a mutual encouragement, and remember that your success will dry up at the point your dedication and sacrifice do.